Counselor Adofoli says all men are the same is the language of a sick woman.
“It’s a sickness for any woman to conclude that all men are the same. Many times the women who say this have had a bad encounter or relationship. The fact that you dated a man who treated you bad doesn’t mean all men are the same. At least that woman has not dated every man on earth to come to such conclusion.
No woman in her right senses will agree to date a man she knows will hurt her. Before she dates any man, she trusts him, that he won’t hurt her. But because the very person she trusted and loved mistreated her, she losses interest in future relationships.
What she doesn’t realize is how much she has changed; she has been mentally corrupted because she dated a corrupt person. She is sick because she dated sick man. She has been infected. It takes only one sick man to change a woman’s perception of men.
A sick man will find you in peace but will leave you in pieces. You are happy when you meet him but he leaves you with hatred in your heart. You have smiles on your face when you meet him but he leaves you with pain and tears.
It has been my fervent prayer that every woman with a good heart will put their heart in the hands of a good man. A heathy man will only infect them with goodness. For a healthy man who even finds you in pieces will lead you to peace.
One of the worst things that can happen to a woman is to give her heart to a man who isn’t worth it and end up with an illness, then find herself holding back from the healthy man who deserves it.
If you are lady who has gone through a bad past experience and think all men are the same, or that any man who comes her way must pay for the pain her ex put her through, then you need to accept the fact that you are sick and need help. You need to heal and recover from the past before venturing into any new relationship.
Let go your ex and the hurt, calm down your mind, stop thinking about the past. The human mind is like water, when it is calm you can see well, for everything becomes clear. When your mind is calm, you can take better decisions, you can figure out the right person.
But when water is turbulent, it is difficult to see. When your mind is turbulent, it is difficult to make the right decision. Don’t let pain make you hate or punish any man who comes your way. You should not be afraid to love again, the truth is, not every man is like your ex.
Always remember you are the star and director in your own movie, you are the author of your own novel. Create wonderful roles for yourself.
In conclusion “Take good counsel and accept correction— that’s the way to live wisely and well” – Proverbs 19:20 (MSG).”
What are your thoughts?