Don’t decline a date because you have a boyfriend – Lady advises single ladies
Most ladies are fond of declining a date from other men just because they have a boyfriend. Well, a lady by name Oge Nsimah has advised her fellow ladies to desist from this behaviour. Read what she posted on her Facebook page below: “Ladies, when a man ask you out on a date, do not…
Most ladies are fond of declining a date from other men just because they have a boyfriend.
Well, a lady by name Oge Nsimah has advised her fellow ladies to desist from this behaviour.
Read what she posted on her Facebook page below:
“Ladies, when a man ask you out on a date, do not decline because you have a boyfriend. Going out on a date is not to ‘make out’ but a friendly offer for the purpose of getting to know you better and be friends moving forward.
Do not send good people out of your lives because you have a boo who probably has a boo.
Even if a man wants you to be his lover, do not say,” I have a boyfriend”, just say a polite “no, I am not interested”.
Let everything you do be about you and because of you. There are women who are married, who say “I am married” and have lovers anyway.
So, be friendly, polite, respectful and firm. A decent man will not force it.
I have great expectations this week and I pray your week goes according to plan.
Cheers you all.
Note!!!
This message is an unpopular opinion,
It is for the disciplined,smart and wise people..
Not for everybody?
#The UnComfortableTruth.”
I fully support this for both Monogamous and Non Monogamous relationships/people. The reason for Non Monogamy is obvious.
The reason for Monogamy is less obvious but not less important.
It is time for CISHET MONO MEN to learn REJECTION at the level of SELF. It shouldn’t take a woman to be “owned” by someone else in order for dudes to fucking hear NO. NO damnit.
No because I said NO
NO because I am not INTERESTED IN YOU SPECIFICALLY.
No because fucking NO.
I love this and I hope more people do it.
No. Just…fucking NO.
Y’all need to KNOW that NO is a complete fucking sentence and stop asking us to baby your feelings and insecurities.
NO. IS. NO.
Lol. DMlyles what are you talking about? First if you think only vid men have issues with rejection then you need to deal with your own toxicity before you pollute the dating pool. Secondly the article was urging women to date others and had nothing to do with chastising men about rejection. Perhaps this is a great time for you to self reflect and heal
Oof. Stop using the word date then because going on a ‘date’ with someone in the context of having a partner already isn’t okay when you’re in a relationship. Getting together with someone who you know is different but going on a date with someone (who is 99.9% of the time obv romantically interested or they wouldn’t be asking, let’s be honest) is wrong. This article was worded this way purposely to get attention and pretty much was asking to be an unpopular opinion. If you want to date around then you’re clearly not interested enough in the person you’re with because if you were you wouldn’t even entertain the idea of doing do. 10/10 terrible advice and pretty much bait because everyone knows what a date is that’s why it’s called a date lol
Absolutely right????
Oof. Stop using the word date then because going on a date with someone isn’t okay when you’re in a relationship. Getting together with someone who you know is different but going on a date with someone (who is obv romantically interested or they wouldn’t be asking, let’s be honest) is wrong. This article was worded this way purposely to get attention and pretty much was asking to be an unpopular opinion. If you want to date around then you’re clearly not interested enough in the person you’re with because if you were you wouldn’t even entertain the idea of doing do. 10/10 terrible advice and pretty much bait because everyone knows what a date is that’s why it’s called a date lol
This is something that I am strongly opposed to. If I am in a boyfriend\girlfriend relationship then it is an exclusive relationship. Its the first step in building a lasting relationship that hopefully ends in marriage. I think its opinions like the one this author has that are directly responsible for almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will ending in divorce or separation. https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/
Why folks don’t read an article but wanna comment on the headline. I figured this would happen because most people don’t read shit
Articles themselves are headlined to create buzz in social media.
Read the article and if my girl go on a date or don’t state she got a boyfriend she can be with that guy cause we’re headed nowhere fast
You do not have to go on a “date” to get to know someone you wish to be friends with. The first thing friendship requires is respect and honesty, so if someone is interested in you and you are not interested in them that should be made clear on the get go. Playing with peoples emotions and feelings is not a sign of empowerement or maturity, if you go out with someone knowing they are interested in you just so you can later down the line “put them in their place by saying no” shows how careless you are of other peoples emotion regardless of your relationship status. So thanks for the advice, but I’d advise you to look at your motivations before making decisions and shelling out advice based on your need to “own” men.
The date word is weird; but its OK to just be friendly with friends. No romantic activities. I’ve lost a lot of male friends due to a relationship and not feeling comfy hanging out, platonic-ally for avoiding jealous questions. My ex was jealous so I respected yet detested the distancing, I think the article partially makes sense, now. I have no issue declining romantic gestures out of respect for myself being in a relationship not the spouse. Cheating is cheating myself out of a honest relationship. Losing good friends not new ones is an issue.
This is ridiculous. If you want to date other people then don’t get in a relationship. If you dont have the confidence in your boyfriend that yall are going to work out, end it! Why would you be ok going on dates with other men like you’re just testing the waters. If you want to date around just stay single. It’s simple. You can let your decisions be made based in yourself but that would just mean you are selfish opening up the potential for at least 2 other people to be hurt. Your boyfriend and the guy you date and will eventually tell no. If monogamy is not your thing, why be in a relationship? This post ain’t it. And it’s not an unpopular opinion because it’s right. Its and unpopular opinion because anyone with common sense knows relationship and dating around do not mix. You’re pretty much saying cheating is okay.
I am married now. There’s no way we would’ve got to where we are today if she took this advice. Before we committed to each other we dated around. It was through dating other people how we found that we matched so well. So we stepped up to the next level and entered into a monogamous relationship. If after that point she still wanted to date around, there would be no us. We would still be 2 single people out testing the waters. Some women tend to forget by nature that men are territorial. It’s not an issue of ownership. It is an issue of time invested. And there’s no way I would be investing all my time, energy, and effort into someone who still gives time, energy and effort to other men. And this goes both ways. Why would a woman who decided to commit to me want me out there still seeing if someone is out there that can potentially replace her when she invested herself in me? It is an unpopular opinion because it is nonsensical. This is only good for a polyamorous couple.
This is why more and more slags are ending up as single mothers.