Joel Osteen is telling us not to be distracted by trying to have peace with people who don’t want peace.
He said “Life is too short to try to have peace with people, that don’t want to have peace with you. And some of your relatives, you love them, but you have to love them from a distance.
Don’t frustrate yourself trying to make things happen that they don’t want to happen. And that’s not being disrespectful, that’s being responsible with the gifts God has given you.
My nature is to be a peacemaker. I want everybody to be happy, I’ll go out of my way, I’ll go the extra mile four hundred times to make peace.
But some people have their own issues, they don’t get along with themselves, how are they going to get along with you? They don’t like who they are, how are they going to like who you are? And no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough.
They’re going to find faults, be critical, try to make you feel guilty. If you keep trying to appease them, keep bending over backwards, spending all your time and energy – all that’s doing is letting them control you.
Be nice, but don’t get distracted, trying to have peace with someone that doesn’t want peace.”
I hope this helps!.