Parents, it’s not good to be telling other family members about your children’s wrong doings

One thing my children will NEVER have to worry about is me spreading their business to the whole damn family or others outside our family.

I don’t understand why some parents do that to their own kids.

You know when I was a child, almost all my aunties, uncles and church members kind of hated me.

They looked at me as one naughty and bad child because of the reports my mother give them about me.

When I misbehave, for instance, I stole a few coins, she’ll spread it among all of them. If I should steal meat from the soup, my mother would make calls upon calls just to inform all and sundry about what I’ve done and the need for them to talk to me.

[Please I’m not trying to say all those bad things I did as a kid were right and should be condoned]

She thought she was being a good mother but it was a very big mistake on her side.

The funny thing is, all these family members and church members never tell my mother about the bad things their own children do in their homes.

So something happened and it changed my mother’s perception of spreading stuff about her children to others.

She paid a visit to one of my aunties (she stayed with them for a week on vacation).

She realized that my aunty’s kids don’t have manners at all. They don’t know how to greet, use polite words and when it comes to house chores, they can’t even wash a single cup.

But all these while, they made it seems to my mom as if their kids were the best whiles we, on the other hand, are bad.

My mother then learned the bitter lesson that no matter how bad we may seem, we’re far better than some kids out there.

She learnt to solve anything that happens under our roof, right there under our roof without her selling us to others.

Do you know the good this brought? Our trust in her heightened. I could tell her about anything bothering me without having the fear that she’ll sell me out.

Please, parents, learn to desist from spreading pieces of stuff about your children to others. It’ll make them bitter against you.

Better solve the issue at home in a simple way and even if it’ll require the help of someone outside, let it be a trusted person.

Selling your kids’ bad behavior outside is simply a way of telling the world that you’re an irresponsible parent yourself.