Sex is the most dreaded topic in most African homes; making many poor at it or addicted to porn

In a typical African home, some things are regarded as highly abominable and rarely talked about…sometimes never talked about.

Aside from all the hardcore values, virtues and ethics an African home provides for its children, it fails drastically to approach the issues surrounding SEX.

Growing up, when we are watching television together and it gets to something mundane and common as kissing, our parents will immediately flip the channel, or ask for our eyes to be closed or we go out for a byforce walk.

These were the antics employed to shun children from what they are supposed to know about the dos and donts of sexuality.

Because these children are not given any information about their sexual fantasies, urges, orgasms and every other thing, they then experiment at a tender age and regret later on.

In stricter homes, more porn addicts and sex maniacs are produced, Sex is seen as a big deal which must be learned but not taught.

There are more people subscribed to porn sites than personal development, educational or current affairs sites. Why? the answer is in the caption.

Sex is the discovery of oneself. Until you can know yourself and how your hormones behave and how your adrenaline system is wired, it will be a difficult task to know who you truly are sexually.

These are the lessons the home must provide but fails to do. The dangers of premarital sex are not discussed, promiscuity pushed under the bed and all the sexual ills are not brought to the fore.

Consequentially, children grow up by developing a strong desire and curiosity to uncover what it is that happens under the sheets. Those who take pleasure in watching porn plan to replicate what they see on their partners.

Porn is unreal and cosmetic. The skills and styles they showcase can only be seen at Olympics gymnastics thus if you decide to pick your lessons from there, you will end up destroying yourself or and your partner.

As humans, we are always curious to know more, and especially, to know what SEX is about. When this knowledge is provided, it guides children to make the right decisions, settle with the right partners and practice proper sexual norms.

The African home must begin to bring all the skeletons out of the cupboard. Because, if this information is not given to the child as he or she grows, it is a recipe for disaster.

The status quo must change. Sex education must be reinforced not only at school but at home because home is where all the values are nurtured.

Women should not be seen as sex toys or people who were created for men to derive their selfish sexual pleasures.

Men must be taught to appreciate the woman and understand that the woman brings meaning to one’s life, therefore, must be seen as a partner, not a sex-machine.

Women must be trained to understand their body; how it functions, what their sexual orientations are and how to carry themselves about with confidence.

Women must understand that the sexiest thing in life is a SUPER CONFIDENT WOMAN.

Sex is never evil, it was a creation of God for our pleasure and recreation but the lack of knowledge of it has rendered us clueless.