The only way not to be disappointed in life is not to expect anything from anyone
I’ve come to realize that the only sure way not to be disappointed in life is not to expect anything from anyone. This is one of the principles that I discovered by the age of 12. You know, I used to live together with my mom and dad in a village and almost every festive…
I’ve come to realize that the only sure way not to be disappointed in life is not to expect anything from anyone.
This is one of the principles that I discovered by the age of 12.
You know, I used to live together with my mom and dad in a village and almost every festive season, say Christmas and Easter, my big aunties and uncles come back from the big cities to celebrate with us.
Normally, I’ll expect that they’ll buy me a new shoe, shirt, toy, or anything when coming — and they always met that expectation.
Another thing I expect from them is when going back, I’ll look forward to them to give me some few bucks — and this expectation was always met as well.
Well, you know what? As time went on, my aunties and uncles will come back like they used to, but they won’t get me a new shoe, shirt, and not even biscuits.
This would make me very bitter and disappointed.
Another thing that came to a halt is how they used to give me money when leaving, they’ll just be like “son I’ve run out of money this time, but don’t worry when I come next time, I’ll give you something”.
These comments made me sick because I was expecting eagerly that they’ll surely bless my pockets with a few bucks.
What I suffered then was a serious heartbreak. I sometimes asked myself if I did something wrong that they’re all changing towards me all of a sudden.
So I was watching a movie (can’t remember the title) and in one of the scenes, a grand-father advised her daughter that “the only way not to be disappointed in life is not to expect anything from anyone”.
I took this to heart and decided to practice it.
So when the festive seasons came, I refused to look forward to getting some new gifts from my aunties and uncles.
And when they were leaving back to the city too, I positioned my mind that whether they give me money or not, I don’t care.
And this worked like magic, that sting of disappointment that I used to feel, vacated my heart.
Fast forward later in life, I applied this in everything I did. In my relationship, I don’t expect my partner not to cheat, so when my first girl thought she broke my heart, I just moved on because I wasn’t expecting her to be perfect.
I applied this in many spheres in my life and it has really helped me escape a lot of heartbreaks.
Humans are imperfect so do not expect them never to wrong you. A lot of you out there are suffering heartbreaks just because you expect too much from people.
Please from today forward, tell yourself: “The only way not to be disappointed in life is not to expect anything from anyone”.
You’ll be surprised at how it’ll help you.
Do you agree with this or not? Let your opinions be heard in the comment box below:
Yes this was put in a awesome way I tell my self that often the only way some thing can hurt you is if you care. And at a young age my Great Grandmother told me Always leave Room for disappointment. It took me awhile to really get the message but I understand it now
This is really encouraging and advisable to everyone not to over expect or put all our minds more to those people that we all t expect that they will do more to us. This is a very good lesson to me and others.
I’ve realized this as well. Not only does it help, you just have to accept tbe fact that human beings cannot be perfect. Enjoy the good times, just dont expect people to behave like saints. Life will happen, accept it. It will set you free from heartbreaks and disappointments.
I agree 100%…A good way to go through life…I’ve learned this as well, can’t be disappointed if you do expect something from someone, out of work etc. I DEPEND ON ME.
Yes is very true, u will always get disappointed wen expect too much from pple
No. Not at all. Expecting human decency honesty and respect is not expecting too much from people. Its baseline. This sounds like a quick way to excuse bad behavior and lack of empathy. I would never expect people to give what they don’t have. I do however expect to be treated correctly.
I have mixed feelings about this. It seems responsible to protect my own feelings, and realize expectations can return void. How to and mostly whom to, apply this is tricky.
Is this blanket for everyone and every situation? It doesn’t feel like I am truly living to live this way. I will have to give it more thought. It does seem safer but it also seems sterile.
Yes is very true.. expectations always hurts. You will always get disappointed if you expect things from people
Very Very True‼
Once you become a adult the tables should turn you should be the giver, and not expect to receive, expectations of children should be different than the expectations of a grownup, and of course adults will disappoint I depend on God
Put your faith/trust in man and he/she will fail you everytime!! ??
I’m going to try this and see what happens
I think it’s a sad sad way to live not to expect anything from anybody. I believe that things came to ahead because you were selfish all you talked about is what they have for you never once did you mention what you tried to do for them even though you were a shower you could’ve made them a card or something not just sit back and expect to be given all the time that’s a lot of the problems with the millennial’s these days. If I expected my make the cheat on me I would have nothing to do with him because I know I’m better than that
Wow from my understanding this was much needed to read … I read alot of things, I actually like this particular one. Thank you
I have come to realize that putting all burdens and worries to almighty God is the best so far. Humans tend to changes/ fails, but God is the same yesterday today and forever.
I really hate this somebody owes me something generation. how selfish and entitled you sound. such stupidity and yall think your the it generation. you are some sad silly humans.
I really hate this somebody owes me something generation. how selfish and entitled you sound. such stupidity so cause someone didn’t buy you material things you just decide to never expect anything from anyone what a awful way to live.