If a person has prayed istikhaarah, he may make a decision and go ahead with it
Question I proposed marriage to a girl with the intention of marrying her, then after that I prayed istikhaarah with regard to this marriage. On the same day that I prayed istikhaarah, my family and I went to visit the family of my fiancée, and she treated my mother in an inappropriate manner which led…
Question
Praise be to Allah.
If this girl is religiously committed and of good character,
and you have prayed istikhaarah asking Allaah for guidance with regard to
proposing to her, then go ahead and do not hesitate, for whatever Allaah
makes easy for you will be good, in sha Allaah. The sign of istikhaarah is
when a thing is made easy. If it becomes difficult and does not go ahead,
that is a sign that there was no good in it for a person. It says in the
du’aa’ of istikaarah:
“O Allaah, if in Your knowledge, this matter (then it should
be mentioned by name) is good for me in my religion, my livelihood and my
affairs, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me.
And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood
and my affairs, then turn me away from it, and turn it away from me, and
ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.”
The fact that this girl treated your mother badly is not a
sufficient reason for leaving her. That may have happened because of
heedlessness or it may have been a mistake, or due to excessive shyness and
so on.
But if it becomes clear to you that this behaviour indicates
a fault in her religious commitment or character, then in that case your
hesitating to go ahead with the marriage is justified, but if you want to go
ahead with the marriage, you must set things straight between your family
and your fiancée, and prepare your family to welcome a new member.
Conclusion: whoever is sincere in turning to his Lord and
delegating his affairs to Him, and prays istikhaarah for guidance in some of
his affairs, should go ahead and do it. If it becomes easy for him, this is
a sign that it is good for him, but if he is stopped and it becomes
difficult, then he should forget about it, and he should realize that being
prevented from doing it is good in sha Allaah. May Allaah help us and you to
do that which He loves and which pleases him, and may He may the best of
things and those which are dearest to him easy for us.
And Allaah knows best.
