Misfortune of a wife whose husband is committing sodomy

Question

Praise be to Allah.

Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.
There is no power and no strength except with Allaah, the Exalted, the
Almighty! A married man committing sodomy! By Allaah, this is the essence of
corruption of man’s nature, absence of faith, lack of shyness, and lack of
awareness that the Lord of the Worlds is always watching.

Your husband is cursed by Allaah, because the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Cursed is the one who
does the action of the people of Loot.” (Narrated by Ahmad, 1878; classed as
saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5891).

Your husband has committed a great sin, from which he must
repent before death comes to him and he is subject to the wrath and
vengeance of Allaah and loss in this world and in the Hereafter. See
question no. 10050.

You have to advise him, after being certain that he has
indeed done this, and remind him that Allaah is always watching him and that
the Shaytaan is keen to mislead him, so that perhaps he may stop committing
this sin. We ask Allaah to keep you safe and sound.

Then remind him that one day he will be a father – would he
like anyone to commit this sin against his children?!

Homosexuality brings disasters to the one who does it, and it
causes diseases from which few of those who commit this abhorrent evil
action ever escape. It causes distress, anxiety and a sense of alienation in
the one who does it and the one to whom it is done.

Also, it darkens the face, causes distress, erases light from
the face, and makes the face grim, and anyone who has the slightest insight
can recognize it.

Also, it inevitably leads to alienation, intense hatred and
cutting off of ties between the one who does it and the one to whom it is
done.

Also, it wrecks the lives of the one who does it and the one
to whom it is done, in such a way that there is hardly any hope that matters
can be put right, unless Allaah wills that they should repent sincerely.

Also, it takes away all good things from them, leaving them
with the opposite, and it takes away all love and friendship between them,
leaving them instead hating and cursing one another.

It is one of the greatest causes of blessings being lost and
of the wrath of Allaah. For it inevitably leads to the curse and wrath of
Allaah, and His turning away from the one who does it and not looking at
him. What good can he hope for after that, and what evil can he be safe
from?

What kind of life can a person have who is subject to the
curse and wrath of Allaah, from whom Allaah has turned away His face and
will not look at him?

Also, it destroys modesty in general, meaning the modesty
which is the life of the heart. When the sense of modesty is lost, ugly
things appear beautiful and beautiful things appear ugly. At that point
corruption takes over.

Also, it generates insolence and impudence like nothing else
can.

Also, it generates contempt, scorn and disdain like nothing
else can.

And it leads to a person being hated, despised and looked
down upon by people, and regarded as beneath contempt, as we seen in real
life.

(From the words of Ibn al-Qayyim in Zaad al-Ma’aad,
4/263)

Modern medical studies have proven that this action causes a
great deal of damage in the psyche, minds and bodies of those who commit it.
The damage that it does includes the following:

Its effects on the nerves, brain, reproductive organs, viral
infection of the liver. It leads to many serious homosexual diseases, such
as syphilis, gonorrhoea, herpes and AIDS. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and
sound.

So you have to remind him of this serious damage. But if he
does not stop this sin and give up this evil action, then warn him that you
will demand a divorce, and that may make him stop. Note that living with
this man – if he does not stop what he is doing – will result you and your
children also being exposed to punishment, and you may also contract a
disease that he has gotten as a result of his perverse actions. We ask
Allaah to make things easy for you and to guide your husband. Ameen.