Should she continue studying medicine or get married and study?

Question I am a university student and have just started studying in the Faculty of Medicine. I have got engaged to a young man who is of good character and religiously-committed, and I agreed to that. My problem is that I am confused as to whether I should complete my studies and delay the idea…

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I am a university student and have just started studying in the Faculty of Medicine. I have got engaged to a young man who is of good character and religiously-committed, and I agreed to that. My problem is that I am confused as to whether I should complete my studies and delay the idea of getting married, but he wants to get married quickly and he has promised to let me complete my studies. Is it better to get married soon or to delay it? If I get married can I combine study and marriage?.

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

The basic principle is that it is mustahabb to hasten to get
married for the one who is able for that, because the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you
can afford it, let him get married, for it helps him to lower his gaze and
protect his chastity. And whoever cannot do that, let him fast, for it will
be a protection for him.”. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5065) and Muslim
(1400).

This is especially important in these times when temptations
are widespread.

Moreover, as you have just started studying, this means that
this waiting period will be very long, and this is not in the interests of
young men or young women in general, and it is not in the interests of the
engaged couple in particular. Whoever is able to get married at the age of
twenty, there is no benefit in delaying it until he is twenty five, and so
on. Moreover, having a lengthy engagement is not something good, because the
couple will be in a state of suspension, as it were, even if we assume that
there are no haraam things involved such as mixing or being alone together,
etc.

It should be noted that the one who fears that he may fall
into haraam is obliged to get married, and it takes precedence over studying
in the case of a conflict. No differentiation is made between men and women
in that regard, if they can afford it.

Secondly:

There is nothing wrong with completing one’s studies after
marriage, but is it possible to combine studies and household duties? This
varies from one person to another, according to their abilities and
circumstances. It also varies according to the type of study, and whether
there are children or not. It seems that there are some people who can do it
and some who cannot.

We advise you to pray istikhaarah and consult people before
taking this decision, and we ask Allaah to guide you to all that is good.

And Allaah knows best.

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