He likes to imitate women

Question

Praise be to Allah.

Islam forbids men to imitate women and women to imitate men,
and in fact it emphatically forbids that, to such an extent that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed those who go against
the human nature with which Allaah created them.

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with
him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men, and he said: “Throw
them out of your houses.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5885).

Undoubtedly one of the most obvious signs of an effeminate
man is that he wears women’s clothing and imitates their ways.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) cursed the man who wears women’s clothing and the woman who wears
men’s clothing. Narrated by Abu Dawood (4098) and classed as saheeh by
al-Nawawi in al-Majmoo’ (4/469) and by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi
Dawood.

‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed
masculinized women. Narrated by Abu Dawood (4099); classed as hasan by
al-Nawawi in al-Majmoo’ (4/469) and as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh Abi Dawood.

Al-Mannaawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

As al-Nawawi said, this indicates that it is haraam for men
to imitate women and vice versa, because if it is haraam with regard to
clothing then imitating them in one’s movements and tone of voice is even
more abhorrent. So it is haraam for men to imitate women and vice versa with
regard to clothing that is unique to one sex, and the one who does that is
subject to the threat of being cursed. End quote.

Fayd al-Qadeer (5/343).

Once this is established, we will know that the Islamic
ruling on this kind of sexual perversion is that it is haraam, and it is a
major sin. So it is not permissible to do that whether alone or with one’s
wife, because going against the sound human nature (fitrah) that Allaah has
created in us can only result in corruption and evil. Allaah has created man
with masculine qualities that cannot go with wearing women’s clothing or
imitating women’s mannerisms.

Undoubtedly the one who seeks to be effeminate and derives
pleasure from that and thinks that it fulfils his desire is sick with a
disease that the doctors describe as a “fetish”. They have behavioural
programs to treat such cases that are presented to them, so anyone who is
faced with this problem should not hesitate to go to a psychologist to
supervise his treatment for this sickness.

All we can do is remind him of Allaah and make his religious
commitment a positive and effective factor in ridding him of this waswaas.
He should remember the wrath of Allaah towards effeminate men, and he should
remember that He can see everything they do, and that this life is a few
short days that will quickly cease to be, and a man will be left with his
deeds in the Hereafter.

We remind him to seek the help of Allaah, for He is the best
of helpers and the best One to ask for help. If a person is sincere in his
du’aa’ and seeking help and turning to Him, Allaah will answer his prayer
and relieve him of his problem. But part of praying sincerely is sincerely
applying the means and striving hard and being patient until full healing
comes and he gives up these evil haraam practices. And for his efforts and
patience he will be rewarded by Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted.

The best thing that will help him to give up this inclination
is marriage, because it opens the door to satisfying sexual desires in good
and halaal ways. Whilst he is waiting for that, he should distract himself
from desires by filling his time with acts of worship and beneficial habits,
and he should try to fast, because it is very helpful in controlling
desires. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said
concerning it: “Whoever cannot afford (to get married) should fast, for it
will diminish his desire.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1905) and Muslim
(1400).’

One of the most important things that will help him is:
respecting the sacred limits set by Allaah, by refraining from looking at
people’s ‘awrahs and refraining from thinking of desires, because looking at
haraam things is the basis of every calamity, and that is what leads one to
these bad, perverted habits that he sees among some perverts.

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

Looking generates thoughts, then thoughts generate ideas,
then ideas generate desire, then desires generate will, then the will grows
strong and resolves to do the deed, and then the deed will inevitably take
place unless there is something to prevent it. Concerning this it was said
that patience in lowering the gaze is easier than patience in bearing the
pain that comes afterwards. End quote.

Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi (p. 106).

It should be noted that thinking about such perversions will
inevitably lead to doing them, so it is essential to divert oneself from
such thinking, and to distract oneself with permissible kinds of pleasure
with one’s wife. He should not try to connect fulfilment of desire with
those bad practices. That is the whispers of the shaytaan. Undoubtedly the
best kind of pleasure is that which is achieved in accordance with the sound
human nature with which Allaah has created people.

We ask Allaah to guide you to the straight path.

And Allaah knows best.