‘I feel ashamed of my parents’ – 19-year-old University student

A 19-year-old University student have written to counsellor David Papa Bondze-Mbir on an issue bothering him.

Narrating her problem, the teenager said she loves her parents deep down her heart but she’s ashamed of showing them off in public.

Read his full message below:

“Hello David. I am 19 years, and a University student. I am ashamed of my parents. I don’t know what they’ve done to me, but I just can’t seem to want them to be my parents. I want my friends’ parents to be my parents rather.

Anytime my mother comes to my school to visit me, I hide from her. I switch my phone off whenever my father is on campus to bring me money. I love them very much, but I don’t want them to be my parents in the open. I want them to remain my parents in the closet. I have tried to explain to them not to visit me or bring me money, because I really don’t need money. I am doing okay all by myself, but they keep worrying and visiting uninvited.

Last week, my father came over and I think he realized I was intentionally hiding from him. He sent me a text saying that he was very disappointed in me for feeling ashamed of him and my mother. I feel bad right now, not because of the text, but because I couldn’t be bold enough to tell them to their faces.

Is it a wrong thing to not want my parents to be my parents in the public, though, deep within, I really, truly, love them? “

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