Ruling on gathering to eat, offer condolences and recite Qur’aan together

Question

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

It is not
permissible for the family of the deceased to make food and invite people to
come and eat. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade
that. Jareer ibn ‘Abdullah said: We used to regard gathering with the family
of the deceased and making food after the burial as coming under the same
heading as wailing.. Narrated by Ahmad, 6866; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani
in Talkhees Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz.

It is not
permissible to go to these meals and gatherings; rather what must be done is
to tell people not to do that and to explain to them that it is contrary to
Islam.

With regard
to reciting Qur’aan together, if the group starts to recite Qur’aan together
in unison, this is another innovation; this was not narrated from the
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) or from any of his
Companions.

This has
been discussed previously in the answer to question no.
4039.

Based on
that, you should not have attended this gathering and if you did attend,
then you should have explained to them that this action is not prescribed in
Islam. If they did not respond to you then you should have left the place,
because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“Whoever among you sees an evil action, then let
him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his
tongue [by speaking out]; and if he
cannot, then with his heart – and that is the weakest of faith.”

Narrated by
Muslim, 49

Part of
objecting to evil in the heart is leaving the place where it is happening.

See also the
answer the question no. 96662

And Allah knows best.